At your age, fitting in is often a big concern.

Unfortunately, for those who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning or queer, this may be more difficult.

Those who identify this way also face possible stigma and discrimination.

This may mean LGBTQ+ youth are at an increased risk of mental illness.

Here are some statistics to help this point home:

• 60% of LGBTQ+ youth report being so sad or hopeless they stopped doing some of their usual activities
• LGBTQ+ young people are more than twice as likely to feel suicidal and over four times as likely to attempt suicide
• Transgender youth are four times more likely to experience depression
• Transgender students who were denied access to gender-appropriate buildings were 45% more likely to attempt suicide.

You may have reached a stage on your journey where you have come to terms with your sexuality. And possibly, you may be ready to share this with those around you. This is named “coming out” by many.

You should know that coming out is up to you and it is your decision who you choose to share the information with. It is important to speak your truth and your courage in this situation is brilliant, appreciated. There may be risks associated with coming out.

You may be confused or dissatisfied with your sexual identity. This might be addressed before you come out. You may want to consult a therapist. They can provide a safe space for you to share your feelings and offer healthy ways to cope with difficulties.

You may want to think about these things before you disclose:

• The person you’re about to talk to - their view may be clouded by myths and fears. Think about whether you value their opinion. It is important that you trust each other. Think about the openness of their mind and maybe have available bits of information to help them understand.
• Your support system - you may find you want someone else that you trust and feel safe around on the phone or in person as you disclose this information.
• Timing - the reaction of those around you may be determined also by their health and the current situation they are in. Ideally, the timing will be comfortable for all.

After you reveal this information, you may want to check in with yourself and think about your feelings.

You have taken a huge step and it is normal to feel a range of emotions, including sad, overwhelmed, relieved or happy.

If the reactions were negative, take the time you need to regain your footing.

Time and space may help.

Use your support circle if those you have told become distant.

You may find there are a range of reactions to what you say and your true feelings.

And yet, you have come so far in sharing who you are.